I can't believe I did that!
Oh well, been there, done that!
We get it. You're human. We've all been there.
Whether it was binging in front of TV, storm eating when you get home from work, pulling up to the gym and turning back around, spilling too much information, not speaking up when you 'should have' - it happens!
Unfortunately, most of us get caught up in the situation and replay it in our minds over and over and over and over.
You can say that again. And again. And again.
The thought distortion where you go over something over and over repeatedly in your mind. Not to be confused with the action of chewing the cud (because that's for nows).
Well, here is a trick for getting out of it. Or perhaps preventing getting into it in the first place.
I can't believe I ' _______________________ '. --> That's information.
You see embarrassment, shame, guilt, anxiety.
I see opportunity.
What do I mean?
You can't turn back time, but you can alter the future.
One of the best ways to get out of the past, is to see what you can do in the present to change. Not to change what happened, but to change how you see the situation, and what you do about it.
Whenever I find myself allured by rumination, I stop and say "that's information (yes, out loud!). it stops my spiral right dead in its tracks. #NoSPiralsWinningRacesHere It puts the speed breaks on my thought distortion train.
Then I ask myself what the situation told me about:
My thought processes.
...and jus about anything else in between.
Always be learning
Every could have, should have, would have... is information.
So let's practice.
1. Identify a recent situation that had (or may be still has) you ruminating.
Write it down.
2. What information did you collect? About yourself, your relationships, about thought processes, and more.
Write it down.
Woah! That's a lot of information.
Now what you do with that information is up to you. Let's grow!